what got you into anal first place, describe your first experience?

I prefer to give anal. My first experience was with a married man who I dressed up in my clothes and fucked with a vibrator.

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what would you suggest to a vanilla person trying to break his bdsm cherry, other than reading and asking experienced people?

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What do you like about cbt?

I like the feeling of control it gives me.

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What is your favorite thing to talk about on the phone?

My favorite subjects are feminization, humiliation and strapon play or reverse gender role play.

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What do you like about phonesex?

I love to talk to a wide variety of people on the phone and I enjoy the challenge of finding what excites people. I've always loved the challenge and creativity of being a PSO.

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When did you start doing phonesex? How did you start?

I began doing phonesex in my early twenties. The events surrounding my involvement in phonesex were kind of accidental. I posted a personals advertisement on one of the phone ad systems saying that I was interested in "water sports" such as fishing, boating and swimming and that I liked "French." I meant this literally and was unaware of the totally covert code that personals ads have to indicate fetish. I ended up getting a lot of very strange phone calls as a result. The service actually forwarded calls to me and I found I liked the heavy breathing masturbators that called me. LOL. I guess that was the beginning of my exploration of perversions because I talked to a wide number of people about a wide range of subjects and discovered many sexual interests I'd never heard of before.

My own personal interests kept coming back over and over again to gender role switch. My fascination was with gender and bisexuality. I desired to be the man in the fantasies that I had. I wanted to have a cock and fuck men. Using a cock still remains very powerful and exciting to me even 20 years later.

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I'm a sissy. What is the best dildo for me?

One of my favorite dildo companies is vixen creations. They make lots of cool silicone toys including their special "vixskin" dildos. I own the one called johnny. Check it out at http://www.vixencreations.com

You can also try this site http://www.blowfish.com and take a look at the silky dildos which are especially good for beginners. As you can see, I am partial to silicone. It may be more expensive to buy some silicone dildos but they last a lot longer and are easier to clean because you can sterilize them.

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Are you a lesbian?

I am about as lesbian as you can get and still like cock. LOL. I was in a lesbian relationship for 8 years. I like men, but I generally am attracted to men who are effeminate or bottoms. The only exception to that rule is my current partner who is a female to male transsexual. I like his cock, but that doesn't necessarily mean I want yours. Does that make sense?

I really prefer being the one giving rather than receiving when it comes to biological guys. If you can deal with my lesbianism and are gender non conforming, then we probably have something in common.

Honestly, my partner is 150% man and that's all the man I'll ever need.

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would You do online domination for training a newbie?

I don't really have the time right now for online training. After I get settled in Boston, that may be a possibility for the right person.

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Where are you moving?

The moving van comes in a few days and we are actually going to be in Boston by the end of next week. I'm so excited!

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What's your favorite clothing brand?

I am not really much of a brand person, but I do like http://www.onestopplus.com which sells lots of clothing including clothes from http://www.torrid.com . I am also fond of a really slutty lingerie website called http://www.biggalslingerie.com

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Have you ever taken a CD shopping for girl clothes?

I LOVE going shopping with crossdressers.

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What sort of sensation play do you like?

I enjoy tickle torture.

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Can I follow you on fetlife?

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Humiliation Equation

Someone asked me recently why they would get extremely turned on by humiliation, even though they really hate to be humiliated.

There is an old cliché sayings that come my mind when I think about explaining why humiliation is such a turn on.

"There's a fine line between love and hate."

Arousal is produced by brain chemicals in the body.  Some of the same chemicals are present in the body when you love someone and also when you despise someone.  Both emotions can cause arousal.  Have you ever enjoyed an angry fuck?  You don't have to love someone to get off sexually.  In fact, a person can get very aroused when they have an intensely hateful relationship with someone.  A case in point would be the person who fucks their ex on a regular basis even though there is animosity between them.

Shame also produces potent brain chemicals.  When someone is humiliated, they often feel shame as well as anger.  The shame can be a powerful aphrodisiac and produce a chemical cocktail in the brain which makes people very addicted to humiliation sex.  Even though they  might detest the words like cunt, whore, bitch, etc., they still get off on the feeling produced when someone shames them.  Sometimes this has to do with past experiences and low self-esteem during the pre-teen and teenage years which became attached to their budding sexuality.  For some, it has to do with a need to feel put down in order to deflate the ego and get outside of themselves or their social roles.  

Humiliation can be like exposure therapy that is used by therapists who treat anxiety disorders.  The more a person is exposed to words like cunt and whore or other terms that push their shame button, the less these words actually work to produce shame.  So say for example that you were taunted when you were in grade school about being a sissy.  The sissy word is then a huge humiliation and shame button for you.  You become addicted to being shamed for being a sissy.  Then as your Domme or Mistress humiliates you with this term, you start to become more immune to the term until you start to feel that the word is a term of endearment rather than humiliation.  The more you are exposed, the less ability the word has to hurt you.