You want to be used and whored, gang banged, taught to be a cock sucker? Yes, most of you probably cream your panties over those fantasies.
However, from a practical standpoint, this sounds like the fantasy of most of my clients on
Niteflirt. The reality is much harsher than the fantasy. In reality, it is an exploitive situation. You may think you want to be used and exploited, but after a period of time, the fun wears off and it is just whoring. And the Domme or Dominant will get what they want out of it.
You'll get tired of it. You'll outgrow your need for it when you come to terms with your compulsion to gender bend. When you've grown to the point where you can talk openly about your crossdressing or gender bending or your need to transition, you will stop being so compulsive. You'll get out of the shame binge and purge of buying clothes and be okay with yourself to the point where you don't feel compelled any more. The kind of fantasies that turned you on once will no longer be the same.
Don't think that every Dominant is perfect. Some might care about your pleasure in this kind of "forced feminization" fantasy, but some might not. Some might only care about their own monetary situation and not about your safety. Safety should be a hard limit. Be careful. There are those out there who would exploit your slave or sub tendencies to the point of danger.
So when someone dangles a carrot of let me use you and I'll turn you into a woman, maybe you can achieve the same results out of your own impetus and without putting yourself at risk of STDs and supporting a Domme/Dominant. I firmly believe that the decision to transition belongs to the trans person and not the Domme or Dominant.
If you let someone unsafe whore you out, you'll be struggling for an apartment if you are in a position of homelessness. Transition will be impossible, because it is expensive and you'll never have enough money. You'll never dig yourself out of that hole of homelessness unless you go out on your own. You'll be used until you're fed up to the point that you have to get professional help to get away. And I don't think 80/20 works for someone who is promised help to get out of a hole by being turned out to whore.
If you want to whore, do it for yourself (and be safe). Don't do it for someone else. They won't pay for your Obamacare if you should need medical assistance.
Play Safe, Take Fewer Risks!
As far as fulfilling those whoring fantasies, what I wish for you is a positive and trusting relationship with a Dominant who values safety above all and vets your potential "clients" for you. Let it be a role play and not a reality. There are also alternatives like internet gender role play or phonesex play.
Trust is something that has to be built. Just because I or others may call myself a Dominant, does not mean that the submissive or slave should just take it at face value. Dominants can and are wrong. They may not like to be confronted about it. They may not admit it in so many words. However, you as a submissive, have the right to take yourself out of any situation which you deem to be unsafe.
Things which may make you vulnerable to exploitation or being used beyond the point where you are able to distinguish safe and unsafe. Please remember these possible risk factors:
- being inexperienced in bdsm
- experiencing sub frenzy - i.e. wanting your first experience so bad that you let down your guard on being picky about finding the right one or the right situation
- being closeted - because you are closeted, you may be somewhat compulsive about your feminization activities - and that could mean you might possibly take greater risks because you get caught up in the shame/guilt factor and the binge and purge of closeted cross dressing
- being trans and needing affirmation - I've had a lot of very close friends who are trans, and I know that being trans makes you vulnerable to needing that affirmation of being pretty, sexy, feminine, etc. Just because someone gives you affirmation, it doesn't mean they are an experienced or safe player or that you should fall down with your legs open for anybody who expresses appreciation. There are also those who might take advantage of the need for affirmation in order to get their sexual needs met. To me, that is an insidious and evil kind of exploitation. Yes, everybody loves being objectified once in awhile. It feels good. But make sure the person you allow to objectify you or give you affirmation is someone who respects you as a person.
Where Can I Find Real Life People to Talk To?
- If you are in the Boston area, try Fetlife Boston Events. You'll have to be a member, but it is a free website. If you want to find support, try Fetlife Academy for Sissies Group (International) or Crossdress Massachusetts if you are in the New England area.
- Boston Area Trans Support is available for those who are transgender in the Boston area.
- Tiffany Club in Waltham, Massachusetts is a safe place to go if you have no place to dress.
- If you need something to wear try Glamour Boutique in Auburn, Massachusetts. The owner of Glamour Boutique has huge parties a few times a year for crossdressers and trans folk.
- Please note that I have no affiliation with BATS or Tiffany Club or Glamour Boutique, but I know people who frequent them. People there would not know me by DommeZen, so inquiring will result in no info.
You can call me if you want. My rates are much more reasonable than a Pro Domme and I have a lot more sincere interest than you'll find in a professional who probably is just performing an acting role and has no vested interest in the subject.
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